How to be Happy

The reality is we cannot have everything we want, whenever we want it.  We all have to do things we don’t want to do and be some ways we don’t want to be.  We can only have what we have when we have it.  Limitations are natural components to life which, rather than forsake, ironically, allow us to live fuller lives.  Tragedies and successes are not to shame or elevate us, but lead us to the right place to make the right choice at the right time, so we can have a fulfilling life experience.

It is not appropriate to want to be perfect and desirable to everyone.  For happiness we only need those who we desire to desire us.  When young and unblemished, we were ignorant and insecure; when secure and smart, we are old and blemished.  Youthful dreams are equal in value to the wisdom of age.  If you are irregular, stupid, lazy, fat, or whatever, stop being so mean to yourself, accept your life without shame.

The true qualities are unseen; they are our most valuable assets.  Who and how deep you love is invisible, but none the less exists and is everything.  Isn't it the invisible value of her big heart, their steadfast devotion, or his sense of humour that make him so endeared and not the size of their shirts or their wallets?  Unlike the transience of possessions and power, qualities are permanent, complex and engaging.  Their power holds to an invisible agenda from a source that feeds all secret passions.

Designed by nature, intricately and uniquely, we are to be perfect imperfections.  He doesn’t look like he thinks he should look any more than you do.  Is your granny perfectly imperfect?  Of course she is.  Is the birth of a down’s child a mistake?  No certainly of course it is not.  We are all imperfections for the world, how arrogant to assume otherwise.  Beyond our comprehension, and at the whims of our limitations and attractions, we are perfect for our role in the story of humanity.

You won’t always look like a teenager, no more than you looked like a baby when you were a teenager, and this is a good thing.  Talk about personal body modification!  Celebrate the being who has stood the test of time, the marks and colors of victories and defeats.  Accept you as the beast you have to wear, enjoy both your youthful zest and insight from experience.  Everyone has their place without them the world would not be the same.

            Intricately designed for our role on the planet, we are here to play a profound part in the collective awe of things.  From gains and losses our humanity is woven into the fabric of life, each fashioned specifically to interlock with others and the world.  The design allows us to share our powers with the rest of the world.  We should gladly embrace our anomalies and idiosyncrasies, as they make us special and most valued in the collection.

Look with fascination at how all animals have different attributes and limitations, beyond their control, which makes them unique and powerful.  This is true for the fish, the plants, all living; each a fingerprint of life.  By nature, each variance can contribute to community, biodiversity and sustainability.  Each can look similar, but all are having exclusive experiences, an original life.  Variance is the magic to which we can only sit in innocent astonishment as its singularity sustains us all.

Every living thing has its own invisible agenda and sense of how to be successful.  What you think is who you are.  You are the imaginary conversation that comforts you like a friend and shows you the way when you have no idea where you are.  It knows the truth, things you sense but have ignored.  It is not the conversation that criticizes, belittles and creates turmoil for you at every turn.  Telling yourself you are not worthy of feeling happy, satisfied or guiltless will slowly extinguish you.  Living without pretence, honestly embracing reality, frees us to live worthy lives.

Moments of your lifetime freely offered are the most valuable currency you can share with the world.  Simultaneously, each moment, each breath, each thought, all the same but unique, and all equally necessary.  Each measures its portion as we entertain billions of fleeting ideas through our collective consciousness.  Mere thoughts, triggered by an absurd moment, are changing the course of many lives.

Unseen moments of hope from joy, or insight from violence, can allow us to transcend negative situations.  Moments of love, satisfaction, peace, trust, attraction, or inspiration can be just as life alternating as fear, outrage, or repulsion.  In a mere second a new path is revealed, a veil removed; if only we had known what now we will always know.

Moments pass in an inconspicuous blur of similarity, but in each single moment all things change forever.  You can’t see when you have missed a miracle, gathered from providence or lived a life full of meaning.  Did the five minutes you were running late allow you to miss the accident you passed by on the way?  It is only from the accumulation of moments, our memories, can we see the truths and divine nature at work for us.  The magic of life we cannot see is truly as important and real as all we can.

Life is not a random act.  Genetics can distinguish us all, but it is the unseen spark, necessary for life living within us, that most distinguishes us all.  Living has meaning and our existence is powerful and important.  Be true to your real identity and honour as paramount your internal dialogue.