January 23, 2012

How to be Happy - SHTF - Surviving the Future

The reality is we cannot have everything we want, whenever we want it.  We all have to do things we don’t want to do and be some ways we don’t want to be.  It is not appropriate to want to be perfect and desired by everyone.  For happiness we only need those who we desire to desire us.

The true qualities are unseen, they are our most valuable assets.  Unlike the transience of power and possessions, qualities are permanent, complex and engaging.  Who and how deep you love is invisible, but none the less exists and is everything.  Isn't it the invisible value of her big heart, their steadfast devotion, or his sense of humour which make them so endeared and not the size of their shirts or their wallets? 

When young and unblemished, we were ignorant and insecure; when secure and smart, we are old and blemished.  Youthful dreams are equal in value to the wisdom of age.  We can only have what we have when we have it.  If you are irregular, stupid, lazy, fat, or whatever, stop being so mean to yourself, accept your life without shame.  Limitations are natural components to life, rather than forsake, ironically, allow us to live fuller lives.

Designed by nature, intricately and uniquely, we are to be perfect imperfections.  He doesn’t look like he thinks he should look, any more than you do.  Is your granny perfectly imperfect?  Of course she is.  Is the birth of a down’s child a mistake?  No certainly of course it is not.  We are all imperfections for the world, how arrogant to assume otherwise.  Beyond our comprehension, and at the whims of our limitations and attractions, we are perfect for our role in the story of humanity.

You won’t always look like a teenager, anymore than you looked like a baby when you were a teenager, and this is a good thing.  Talk about personal body modification!  Celebrate the being who has stood the test of time, the marks and colors of victories and defeats.  Accept you as the beast you have to wear, enjoy both your youthful zest and insight from experience.  Everyone has their place without them the world would not be the same.

Like pieces of an elaborate 3D puzzle, our contribution is necessary for the world to evolve as it should.  Some people have money all their lives, some never have love, some can’t walk, and the variations are endless.  We have no choice in the life, only in the living.  By overcoming our shortcomings and embracing our qualities we can successfully forge ahead.  With natural activity our bodies can take us to all the places of our imagination. 

Intricately designed for our role on the planet, we are here to play a profound part in the collective awe of things.  From gains and losses our humanity is woven into the fabric of life, each fashioned specifically to interlock with others and the world.  The design allows us to share our powers with the rest of the world.  We should gladly embrace our anomalies and idiosyncrasies, as they make us special and most valued in the collection.

Look with fascination how all animals have different attributes and limitations, beyond their control, which make them unique and powerful.  This is true for the fish, the plants, all living, each a fingerprint of life.  By nature, each variance can contribute to community, biodiversity and sustainability.  Each can look similar, but all are having exclusive experiences, and original lives.  Variance is the magic to which we can only sit in innocent astonishment as its singularity sustains us all. 

Every living thing has its own invisible agenda and sense of how to be successful.  What you think is who you are.  You are the imaginary conversation that comforts you like a friend and shows you the way when you have no idea where you are.  It knows the truth, things you sense but have ignored.  It is not the conversation that criticizes, belittles and creates turmoil for you at every turn.  Telling yourself you are not worthy of feeling happy, satisfied or guiltless will slowly extinguish you.  Living without pretence honestly embracing reality frees us to live worthy lives.

Life is not a random act.  Genetics can distinguish us all, but it is the unseen spark necessary for life living within us that distinguishes us all most.  Living has meaning and our existence powerful and important.  Be true to your real identity and honour as paramount your internal dialogue.  You have the right to be here, the right to your needs, and the right to share your true self with the world.


  1. wow Ruth, you aways blow me away with this stuff! Thank you.

  2. Thanks, Ruth, I needed this today.


  3. Wow, I just happened onto your blog and am stunned by your insightfulness. What a profound posting! I am so glad to find your blog. I will definitely be stopping back by!

    Thanks a million!

  4. Thanks ladies - ears for my words make me very happy - peace

  5. This brought tears to my eyes for so many reasons.

  6. I had to come back and read this again. It brings tears because I wasted too much time trying to be "perfect" and wishing to be loved by people who wanted nothing to do with me.

  7. Hello my new sweet friend, glad you found comfort in my words, your words gave me comfort today, peace